How to rip your family apart

There was supposed to be a wedding. Dec 24 2009 my son proposed here at Christmas Dinner and the girl said yes. Great I will be the mother of the groom with nothing to do except rehearsal dinner and brides bouquet.

The wedding was scheduled for July 4 2010. 6 Months is not much time to plan a wedding. But soon the bride to be came crying on my shoulder because nothing was getting done. So like a fool I started trying to help. Too bad no one warned me about the mother of the bride. I spent 3 months researching and sending photos and when mom would not purchase what bridezilla wanted I did. The invitations did not go out until June. Brides mom did not really think that anyone needed an invitation or save the date. Funny I never knew that those two things were optional. My husband was going to do the wedding he was after all the pastor of the church where the wedding was to take place. But he died suddenly and I did not have the sense to say get another place. My brain was not working well. Fast forward to decorating day. I went to finish my little bit and ultimately a real fist fight broke out. The girls stepdad - ex coast guard - beat the daylights out of one son, the mother was digging her nails into my neck trying to strangle me and doing a good job of it. I should have called the cops right then and there but I didn't because I did not want my son being arrested but later realizing with all the blood and brusing he would not have been arrested. Fast forward 2 weeks and this child I raised has dicided to try to work it out with the girl. No thoughts at all for his blood kin. None. No thoughts on how this is going to affect his future nor even how it affects his relationship with his brothers and Mother.

I feel today as if I have lost a second family member, first my husband and now my son. And no one to talk to about it.